"So, your partner is interested in nudism..."
We have never met, but I am taking the
liberty to write you because I understand that
your significant other has become interested in
nudism or clothes-free recreation. You are
wondering whether or not to share this with
him. My husband and I are nudists, and like
you, we both experienced all the concerns and
uncertainties the first time we tried it. All the
vague fears and worries I fretted about proved
groundless. I would like to help you
experience and become comfortable with this
lifestyle. I hope you will let me try.
Perhaps telling about my first experience
with nude recreation will lead you to that end.
I was vacationing at a resort in the Caribbean.
The first two days were spent on the beach
sitting in a soggy swimsuit and being chafed by
sand. I signed up for a day boat trip and picnic
at a beach on an island away from the resort.
As we were leaving, I discovered that the
excursion was to an island with a nude beach!
I decided to go anyway, thinking no way was
anybody getting me out of my suit. I stood
firm and, in fact, was the last person to give in
and shed my swimsuit - I was the last one to
get dressed to return to the resort. Why hadn't
someone told me about this sooner? I was
hooked, and that was over 30 years ago. The
phrase, "nude when possible, clothed when
practical," definitely describes me. I do wear at
least shoes when vacuuming the house though
as I have a habit of running over my toes with
the vacuum cleaner.
I admit that my first reaction was that this was
something that was not an acceptable practice.
I was unaware that there is a national
organization and did not know anyone who
could shed light on this relaxing way of life.
The literature available today, some of
which your significant other might have asked
you to look over, tells it like it is. Everyone will
tell you that once you have made your first visit,
the feeling of apprehension will vanish. Until
you experience a thing for yourself, words
cannot tell you how you should feel or how
you should act or react.
Believe in your mate. You have a good
relationship, and he has never asked you to
do anything that was wrong or really
unpleasant. Occasionally, we don't want to
do some things at first, but since it means a
great deal to him, it usually turns out fine.
This too, means a great deal to him. When
you decide to visit a club, give them a call
and inform them that this will be your first
visit. Contrary to what most people believe,
you generally will not be asked to leave your
clothes at the gate. You will be given a tour
of the premises, where the pool or hot tub,
or other facilities are located. If you are
visiting a non-landed club, you will most
likely visit with some of the members at a
neutral location, i.e., coffee shop, after which
you will be invited to an event.
Some common fears of women with
whom I have been in contact include being
secretly worried that she wouldn't be as
attractive to her spouse as she had been,
compared with all the beautiful figures she
was sure must be there. For the most part,
there is a normal cross-section of the
population. The solution for this particular
lady was the security she felt in her
relationship and that the relationship was
based on more than just physical
attractiveness. Another fear is what sort of
people will I meet. You will meet doctors,
lawyers, clergymen and women, taxi drivers,
accountants, secretaries, warehousemen,
waiters, school teachers, moms, dads,
grandparents, teenagers, infants. We are
your neighbors, your friends.
It's a wonderful feeling to meet entirely
new people and enjoy new interests and
activities. There is a peculiar thing you have
to experience to believe, but there is a
friendliness about nudists that you will
generally not find in any other group. I have
come to count our nudist friends among my
closest. They seem to always be there for me,
Why don't you try your hand at being a
nudist in your own home. Try sleeping
nude, if you don't already--once you get used
to it, you won't want to sleep any other way.
That's the first easy step. Then, when you
take your shower or bath, don't grab for a
robe except for comfort. Do your nails or
set your hair, or just read the newspaper. I
think you will enjoy it. If you exercise, try it
without clothes, it feels wonderful. Wear
whatever you need to feel comfortable.
Since it's convenient and healthful at times
to dispense with clothes, nudists do. We're
not different from other people, just more
I hope I've been able to help just a little.
Offer a compromise to your mate. Give him
an hour of your time, you will wish you had